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Being A Better Parent / Employer / Mentor

Let Me Set The Scene
Several months ago. I'm a bit stressed out. I have lots of work on and I have to play chauffer.

Alex my 15 year old had to be dropped off at work; the triplets had to be dropped off at baseball practice as well as the twins - but on a different field. All within a half hour. Like any other normal multi-tasking person I thought we'd refill a prescription for Daniel on the way as we passed by the pharmacy.

As usual, there was no parking in St Heliers. I had Daniel pop out of the car to run in and grab his refill as I circled the block with the other 5 kids. A small easy task I thought.

When Daniel returned empty handed and said "they wouldn't give it to me without ID" - I blew up at him. He had to sit through a tirade of what he should have done as reticence isn't in his native New Yorker mother's vocabulary.

Fast Forward Two Weeks Later
I'm having coffee and a chat with Jan Ferguson, the lovely Small Business Marketing Manager for Microsoft. Jan, the mother of two teen aged boys (though you'd never guess it) was telling me a story about one of her boys wanting to buy a special soccer ball.

She told me he asked her "Mom will you phone around to find it"? Jan said to me "Debbie, my first reaction was to snap at him and tell him to do it himself. But I stopped and mentally put myself in his shoes. I realised this might be a task he never had to do before - research and telephone for something". So instead I explained what had to be done. Then we both did it together".

Well Simon, not only did this bring up an enormous sense of guilt in me, it was a real lesson learnt.

So our Mayo-Smith Motivational Monday point is this. Be it with a child, a grandchild, an employee, someone you mentor: when you give them a task - put yourself in their shoes.

1. Don't always assume they know how to do (even the simplest of things) - it could be their first time.
2. Walk them through it. From A - Z
3. You'll take a negative experience (like Debbie's) and turn it into a positive one like Jan's

 


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